Earlier today Jodie over at Utter Imperfection was talking about a 7 day challenge to not complain. This got me thinking about how much we all complain about the most mundane and irrelevant things on a daily basis. It then led me to thinking about not only complaining but also negativity, specifically self negativity. This may be one of my biggest struggles, it always has been.
You’re not good enough.
You’re a failure.
If people said these things to us we would most likely remove that negative crap from our lives. I can’t think of a single logical reason why any of us wouldn’t walk away from that type of damaging and toxic person. Yet we allow ourselves to say those very things to ourselves. I know personally I am constantly speaking this negative stuff in to my life. I have struggled with that inner voice winning more times than not. I have convinced myself over and over again throughout my adult life that I wasn’t smart enough to go to college. I am not outgoing enough to be a leader. I am too fat for people to want to be friends with me. Believing these things and so many more lies has held me back. Why do we do this to ourselves? It is really quite ridiculous!
Compliments, don’t even bother. If any of you have ever had the joy of giving me a compliment you have likely recieved a response such as–
are you insane?
are you blind?
no I’m not!
Is a simple thank you really all that hard?
One thing I have become really aware of lately is how much my girls, especially Audrey who is 4 1/2 hears and absorbs the things I say and do. It is up to me to be an example. I don’t want her to pick up these things from me, I don’t want her to grow up thinking of herself and struggling in ways I have. I want my kids to be confident and not let their lives be dictated by fear or not being good enough.
I would like to challenge all of you to commit to POSITIVE self talk for the next month. Lets check in with each other at the end of May, or throughout. Let’s stop letting the lies we tell ourselves outshine the truths others tell us.